I consider myself to be a homemaker and according to Wikipedia I am. But what does it really mean to be a homemaker. I know it means to run or manage a household as your primary job, but to me it isn’t just that.
To me being a homemaker means creating a home. A home people want to come to. One that my family feels comfortable and safe in. To me it means having a home that is welcoming to others. Having a home that is clean and cozy.
To me being a homemaker means that it is my job to make sure that our days run as smooth as I can possibly make them run. This includes meal planning, laundry, shopping, cleaning and giving guidance.
When my husband and I decided that it would be best if I quit my job and raise our family I fantasized about what my days would be like. It sounded great cleaning, crafting, playing with my kids, exploring with them and just hanging out… almost to good to be true. And of course it was. For the most part I was living in a fantasy world. When I was at home with just one child it was easy. So easy that I kind of felt guilty that my husband had to go to work every day and I got to stay home with our son and be a homemaker. I loved it.
Then came our second son and things became tough to say the least. I could barely keep up with the laundry, our floors went months without being mopped and I don’t even want to talk about our bathrooms and showers. My oldest son spent most of his days playing by himself and watching cartoons. It drove me crazy, I think this is part of the reason I had a hard time connecting with my second son. All I could think about was how badly I wanted to clean my house and hang out with my other son. I was stuck holding a colicky baby every day all day for nearly 6 months straight. Life sucked.
Now I am at a point where I am beginning to enjoy my job as homemaker again. Not every day as a stay at home mom is fun. Let’s be real… most days are the exact opposite of fun. What I want to take away from these years as a homemaker and stay at home mom is not that I managed my household but I created a loving home for my family. This is what I consider to be the most important part of my job.
Some of my most memorable years as a child are the years that my mom or dad were off of work. There was a year my dad was on disability due to a car accident… I loved it. He was home every day with us. He taught me a lot during that time. I might have been 8 or 9 at the time. He taught me how to sweep, how to do laundry and how to do dishes. It was a lot of fun. Then there was the year when my mom was off of work. She was a hairdresser and got carpel tunnel and had to have surgery and was retrained to be a pharmacy technician. I was in high school at that time. It was so nice having her around when we came home from school. She was home every evening and we ate dinner as a family, the house was clean and candles were lit. It was such a “homey” environment.
These memories make me realize that being a stay at home mom or a homemaker while my children are small is important but it is also important to me that I am home as they get older. I do think I will reenter the workforce at some point but it will most likely be on my terms. Meaning it has to fit into our lives.
When you think of a Homemaker what comes to mind?